A few years ago on a BDSM forum, a young (early 20s) guy told us that he and his FWB wanted to experiment with BDSM and asked for suggestions. The smart people stopped to ask what they, approximately, had in mind: I wrote a short answer listing some mild ideas for newbies. He came back with an answer to the others with, among other things, “…and she would like to try deepthroating with vomiting.” Undoubtedly, there was porn behind this. But then again she can’t possibly have had a rose-colored view of what it entailed.

Personally, I hate gagging where the headgiver just looks dejected and miserable. I love gagging when there is mucus, and sweat, and running mascara, and grunting, and the woman looks like she effing got this. It’s like watching an underdog action hero beat up the bullies (though more real, of course). A small woman on her knees facing one or more phalli with eyes that say “I can do this all day” is wonderful to me.

Oh, and I consider it kink, absolutely.