Actually, I don’t own a single “for Dummies” book. And the TP answer was wrong, elephants do not have four knees.

But, yeah. I could point to autism or general nerdiness, but the bottom line is that I’ve mismanaged so many conversations and comment threads in this way, and if nothing else sabotaged my own chances. As one artist put it (having been extremely driven by their own projects in college): “I used people who could have become friends”.

I wish that young men would take this to heart and not just react as if they had been attacked. Many angry young men today are accusing women of keeping their distance, but when women give them hints on how to improve communication, they are resentful instead of grateful.